RSF, I'm glad you took that well. It might be the harshest post ever for me.
You are having a pity party and I would normally let you except you've admitted this whole situation was put into action BY YOU. So now you have to deal with the consequences.
Since you have no idea how much time she is spending with him, forget about it and assume, not that much. It sounds like you see her fairly often.
Stay the course and get the eff out of your head. Yeah, divorce is the easier way out of a marriage. But divorce is just a piece of paper, it doesn't end your feelings. If it did, we'd all be divorced, right?
And if you have to live in limboland, you can make the best of it so you never look back and think "Man, what a little wuss" when thinking of yourself during this time.
