Oh, and I guess by "stop swimming and just float..." - I think I'm saying that I'm ready to drop the rope. I'm still hopefull, but after this year from he**, I have finally realized that no matter which way it goes, I'll be better off than I am right now. I will start to gain control over my life. I'll be able to start planning my future once again. I'll slowly start picking up my interests where I left them off (such as flying). I'll recert my EMT, which is now expired. I have a lot to do. I hope to go skiing this winter, and I want to take the kids with me. They like ice skating, too... I could see spending a weekend at a ski resort - I've never done that before, and I think it'd be a blast!

So, if W comes around and wants to be part of it - I'm onboard with that. If not, too bad - I guess she'll just have to miss out.


Me: 46
W: 46
M: 9.5 yrs
D4, D9
D filed by her 11/3/08
Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09
Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09
W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09
3rd Bomb 9/2/09