He won't go back to marriage counseling. He said we were just beating a dead horse. He did admit that he needs to do IC awhile back. He did make the call and got a recommendation for a therapist close to our house - one that I had actually called when choosing the marriage counselor (that I still go to for individual counseling). However, the C close to our house sounded old and out of it and I told him that. I recommended he call around like I did and talk to some of the potential Cs to figure out who he might be comfortable with. He's yet to follow-up.
I think you're exactly right - he still has a lot on his mind. I'm sure he still has anger and resentment toward me. I think he's also not quite sure what to make with all the changes in me. He's said that more than once - especially in my new renewed interest in ML. I think he's still struggling (whether he wants to admit it or not) with the person his now former best friend has become. He's made statements like - how could I have not seen this? I told him I think the best friend hasn't always been this person he's just become this person over the last several years. He has father issues he needs to work through as well. His Mom has Alzheimers and they were very close. So he feels like he's lost her as well.
So do you think the best course of action is to just let him approach me regarding ML? And I should just keep trying to be as supportive as I can be? I guess I need to be very careful about letting any disappointment I have show as well - goes right along with not setting expectations for him that he cannot live up to right now.
