Is there a way for someone to remain friends with the OW after an EA? He still doesn't recognize an EA as a real thing and says he will resent me if I make him choose between us. Of course, she's taken herself out of the picture for the moment, but I wouldn't be surprised if she comes back.
I think I could live with it if there are boundaries. Heck, I even think I could really like her and be friends with her myself if we had the opportunity to get to know one another. If this whole thing had gone down differently, if he'd made an effort to introduce us, we could all be friends now. He never lied about his contact with her. I sometimes wonder if I've overreacted to this whole thing and caused more damage to my R.
There may be too much water under the bridge at this point though--too much damage. He's talked to her about our relationship and that really bothers me. While there has been no sex talk between them, there have been things said that really bother me on an emotional level. He's told her that he loves her, that he's always loved her, but he told me that he meant it in a purely platonic sense.
