Ups and Downs

[Energizer Bunny]

At this point, I'm just doing my own thing and she's doing hers.

ANYTHING that I say about my thoughts, feelings, etc either shuts her down or sets her off. I have tried to address things in a different way. Tried to be uber sweet. Made sure I wasn't demanding. Tried to E-mail instead of face to face talk. I haven't had a lot of success here though.

I have recently just let her do her own thing. She knows how I feel on most things. She does the things that I hate just to "show me" that she can. Funny thing is that when I don't say a word about it she seems to lose her motivation for doing these things. If I continue to keep mum, she ends up feeling guilty.

Suggestions? Thoughts? Am I missing something? (I've been known to miss things right in front of my own face)