And I've dreaded being called controlling and manipulating if I decided to say a word about any of it.
how did that work for you?
It sucked!
So what is your solution to avoid repeating this? This is a big issue for you and your marriage.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.