Gucci, I see your advice as being relevant to me in the first two areas - listen, understand her issues, even when they are expressed as an emotional attack, find and then find agreement and address the issues, rather than pushing back, minimizing, invalidating or otherwise avoiding the issue.
You really don't have to understand her on everything. Not necessary. (matter of fact it would drive you to the funny farm trying to understand everything about a woman)
Listen, agree with her side, apologize if she says something she believes you did wrong or said wrong. Do it sincerely. Then be quiet and go happily about your day.
You do NOT have to analyze her. You do NOT have to figure out her problems(s). If she asks for your advice, by all means give her your feedback. (IF she asks is the key)
You as a man should know that us men are simple creatures in many respects...
MAKE IT SIMPLE ON YOU..... Agreeing is simple. it works.
Learn to be good at it. You will discover that agreeing is the farthest thing from what kettricken is trying to bring up.
Do what works. Stay with what works. Simple is better. It saves you ton of all this other analyzing and deep thinking that you seem to be addicted to...
