It's hard, isn't it? Letting go of that last thread of the rope. I think it finally happens when you can say that you are really going to be ok either way. Then you can set him free, to come back, or to go, and you'll be ok with it.
I've been starting to wonder whether he was ever the person you thought he was? Is the ugly yob who he is, and he was just acting to be with you? Or is the ugly yob the act? I'm really wondering now. I don't know the answer, but I know you're not much interested in the ugly yob!
I think as far as the text goes, don't respond. In fact, don't respond to anything. Go darker than dark. Find out if he is ready to put any energy into things. Make him work just to see you, or even talk to you. Either he will realize that he is missing out on a relationship with a great woman, or you will realized that he's just not worth it.
Once you can really finish dropping the rope, you can file. Maybe, just maybe, that triggers something for him. But you need to be ok if it doesn't. In fact, I think you want to be to the point where he would have to convince you it wasn't what you want to do. You don't seem to be there yet, but I think you are getting closer every day.
