What Attracts a Man to a Woman?

[RedSoxFan]

I don't agree one bit. VERY unattractive. A woman who continues to try and win a man or who won't let go when he pulls away isn't hot at all. It is a turnoff. It almost never brings him around.

YOUR very own situation is evidence of this RSF. When your wife WAS fighting for her marriage, you rejected her. It was only AFTER she stopped fighting for it that you woke up and suddenly you were never so attracted to her..

Couple of thoughts.

What I find attractive here is the confidence and decisiveness. For me that is very attractive

I wasn't making a call as to whether the approach was a good DBing technique or not. Perhaps I should have given more consideration to where I'm posting ;-)

As for my specific situation, when I was walking away I attribute my behavior to where I was at that time not my wife's. Nothing or noone could have gotten through to me. If my wife had stopped pursuing and started seeing another man it would not have made a difference. It was only after I went through whatever cycles and processes that I went through that I was in a receptive state.

So I'm agreeing with you but with the caveat that both spouses must be in their places: WAS ready and receptive, LBS detached and attractive.

It seems there may be instances where hanging on a bit longer until WAS is receptive might be a good thing. Obviously doing so while remaining detached and attractive (not attached and desperate) is key. Is this one of those cases? I don't know. I'll leave that up to you experts.