It's MY life now!!!........

[Silent Chrleader]

Thanks, (((((Peace))))).

I don't think I've ever been accused of being "grounded and realistic" but I'm really trying!!

As I said in my reply over on your thread, in C today, we talked about why I still think about it and hurt so much, and C helped me understand that it's because I am mourning for loss of the future we had agreed upon and I had counted on. It was not a fantasy but very real.

C also said that it normally takes about 2 years to get through the grieving process, and he doesn't think I even started until just before Xmas last year when H told me he wasn't coming home like we had agreed when we seperated, and that he really wanted a D. So, I am still less than a year into this.

C explained that much of the feelings I have of still wanting to talk with H and such are just the normal stages of grieving (i.e. denial, negotiation, etc....)

I am and have always been a hopeless romantic, and I have wondered if I just have so much pent up love to give and no one to give it to (since my kids are out of the house too) so that makes it harder to let go, ya know? But, I really want to be careful about getting into another relationship, because I definitely don't want to get attached to someone because I don't want to be alone! That wouldn't be good for me or them.....