DID XH M OW or not??

[Silent Chrleader]

....... sometimes our best choice is to let them go they are not good for us anymore.

Yes, I am coming closer to accepting this conclusion in my own sitch every day.

In C today, we talked about why I still think about it and hurt so much, when I don't really want the old M back, nor do I want the man H has become. I mourn the man I know he can be!! But that is nothing but a fantasy, really, so why is it so hard to let it go??

C helped me understand that it's because I am mourning for loss of the future we had agreed upon and I had counted on. It was not a fantasy but very real and agreed upon, and now he has reneged. That was a future that I had worked toward for 27+ years, so of course it will not be let go easily.

My H, too, has issues with alcohol although whether he fits the label of "alcoholic" is debateable. But, unlike your ex, my H is very "successful" and, in fact, has said that he "can do better" than me now.....

Anyhoo....... take care!

((((hugs))))