K4D Rising #4

[25yearsmlc]

I think a major root of my problems is that I have always felt overwhelmed by things that other people seem to handle just fine.
Is living like this okay with you? You've been here about a year? How long have we discussed YOU getting help for this basic fundamental problem? Most of the time...

It does cause me paralysis and makes me want to avoid it.
IS that okay with you? How long will you "accept this trait, helplessly"? As if you have NO control over yourself AND cannot get help for it...I mean, the paralysis is to avoid conflict and pain -- and look where it got you...

I think my lack of being able to organize effectively leads me into feeling overwhelmed. I have never had good organizational skills. Another complaint of my W.

Everyone has some faults. Deal with the underlying stuff so you can fine tune things the way YOU want to, later. Your inability to make yourself happy is a big stinking problem and worse, it's unattractive, which makes your other problems worse.

I have always told her if she can direct, I will do the work when organizing things such as the house or the car for trips or whatever. This apparently didn't go over with her well over time. (No, I imagine it would not. I don't know women who are attracted to this trait. Some women will run over a man for awhile, or stick around for a bit, but they are rarely happy and rarely stay with a man who's life they must run, or who isn't an equal partner at least...This insight of yours must lead to action.)

It is the same way with multi tasking at work.
Kevin

So...are you going to get help or not? You just admitted that you have problems OTHER than your wife being gone. Problems that contributed to her being gone AND slow or stop you from moving on in life. SO, what are you going to do about it? Ask yourself how miserable you have to feel and for how long, before you'll DO something healthy for yourself that means true change...well?
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