No slamming for that hopeful. Sometimes we stretch to accommodate someone when it wasn't really what we needed to do. That's something you will have to decide for yourself. There's a lot about my 'old self' I liked so I kept that stuff around. Some things I did while DB'ing, like not making waves, that I got rid of because it doesn't promote a healthy relationship, but it's good for that stage of DB'ing until reconciliation comes up.

Your kids are close to the same age as mine. S-6, D-3. I feel the most for my kids as I move toward a separation and D.

Good luck to you.

MySitch
Me-47
STBXW-41
D-5
S-8
ILYBNILWY-01/08
Want a D- 01/09
Physical Sep-01/10
D filed-06/10
Got 50% custody=09/11
Ride that wave!