L R, Sorry I have been off the boards for a few days but caught up on your stich & am so glad to hear you're on the upswing! I really relate to your situation too because you're my age, & I do feel like my H is now an alien. You are doing fantastic, and just wanted to send my admiration! Sorry I was not around to reply to your earlier requests but E N handled them wisely IMHO! Also Girlfromoz, great advice. Am trying to keep in mind always these basics facts that I cannot control what H does & focus on my actions. Keep up the PMA, that is what I'm trying to work on. :-)