WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

"Yes, I'm going to be there with the boys. I've always liked these events with our friends and I do not plan to miss them. If you decide not to go, please extend our friends the courtesy of letting her know."

Just send this. Period. That other stuff is going to open the door to more R talk. I don't know if you've realized it, but you have a tendency to talk too much to her and fall into her traps.

Short and sweet. If she doesn't want to go, tough. You are going to be there looking good, happy and be the life of the kid's party.

I had thought about going that short and direct route, but I'm doing some CYA in the email too where she is "claiming" I'm not trying to communicate or do things with her. I want to be able to pull things up in court to show that I am willing, as long as she is wiling to be open, honest and respectful.

If she does start a relationship talk, I will just stop her by saying there is no point in talking about our relationship when there are other people involved. What I will talk with her about is the kids, but even then, I'm finding she's not being open or honest (i.e. not telling me about the B'day party). She's just helping me build my own case when I go for primary custody if she continues down this path.

It's crazy. I am feeling stronger today (no pun intended Stronger) as I know I will be ok - one way or the other. I did go for a run again today, so I really think that's something I need to continue to do.

Once I get my apartment situation set up in NY, I am going to find a boxing class as that is something I always wanted to do (I already did Karate and jujitsu). It will be back to working on me, for me and for my boys.

So if she wants to keep playing games, let her. I'm not going to let it affect me.

So you can guess from my post, I am back to a up moment....