I think a major root of my problems is that I have always felt overwhelmed by things that other people seem to handle just fine. It does cause me paralysis and makes me want to avoid it. I think my lack of being able to organize effectively leads me into feeling overwhelmed. I have never had good organizational skills. Another complaint of my W.

I have always told her if she can direct, I will do the work when organizing things such as the house or the car for trips or whatever. This apparently didn't go over with her well over time.

She can look at a mess and clean it up and figure out where to put things. I can look at a mess and think geez, I have no idea where to start or put things. Overwhelmness kicks in for me.

It is the same way with multi tasking at work. If I get to many things at once, I am not really sure what order to do them in.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...