I join the others in welcoming you to the board. I was almost a WAW, so I recognize the signs and behavior in your W. I disagree with some of what the MC is trying to do. For one, your W will not want to read or watch or listen to anything/anyone about marriage improvement. It is more than she can endure to make herself go to the MC and I suspect she will end that soon. If she fights you about going, it doesn't serve much purpose. She has to have "something" open for it to do any good. She has to open her heart or her ears or mind.....something. At this point, she has shut down and it will be very hard to get her back. Difficult, yes.....but not impossible. You can look that in the face and realize that it is what it is, but don't keep worrying about it or you will be obsessing instead of you working.
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I am just concerned that no matter what I do, no matter how I change, my W has no will to work things out and that scares the crap out of me.
A WAW can smell this kind of fear! It is also very unattractive, so you must find a way to stop fretting and become self-confident. Women are drawn to men who show self-confidence.
A WAW does not have sexual attraction for her H. She does not "adore" him. I think you are learning why she has come to this place, but you also need to know how you can change that. A woman has to respect, adore & desrie her man. Those three ingrediants are a must in a healthy M. I am not familiar with the book that the MC told you to read, but you need to be reading how you can accomplish these things to cause your W to see the man she first fell in love with. Do you think you could beome that man again?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
