Dr Phil always says that "if they'll do it with ya, they'll do it to ya." Referring of course to affair partners. As for complaining about money, just tell him you don't want to hear about his financial affairs or any other affairs. Ha! If he's going to whine about buying things for your son, why doesn't he just not, like he did before?
Otherwise, hope other things are going well for you and son.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Just some more proof that life is not greener on the other side...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
ML, I would just ignore his tales of financial woe.
As far as the drama...Here is my take.
I think some of them wanted the drama. They were bored and rather than try to resolve the boredom, they blamed us and took off. Now they won't be bored w/OP, because they will have major drama.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
thanks for your replies, I dont know what to think, I am just sitting and watching the show, have had more feedback from close friends and all saying not good down there, I dont think ex will finish it with wifey I think she will be the one that finishes it, if and when it should happen, and this will happen when shes found someone else, she wont put up with his jealousy and not been able to go out on her own, this she as done with other guys, whatever, I really dont care, his relationship with son is all I am concerned about.
spoke to ex last night, he was picking son up to take to rugby training, needed sons passport to sign papers at rugby, so I took the passport out to him, I spoke and he asked how our hols went, I then turned to go in the house, he called me back and asked how my dad was, I again turned to go in the house, he called me back again to ask something else, all the time I was talking to him he looked so upset and sad with himself, I dont know what he as done but he definately didnt look a very happy bunny at all with his new life, also once he was at rugby with son he felt the need to phone me and ask me my name and address details etc for the form filling in which led to further conversation about nothing in particular, I get the feeling that ex isnt really happy at the moment and he wants to chat but doesnt really know what to chat about, maybe the guilt is setting in, I dont know I think that from now on unless he requests me to go chat I will not go outside when he is picking son up, I dont want to appear that I am desperate to talk to him, if he needs me he as my number and can call. felt sorry for him though seeing the sadness in his eyes spoke mountains, but at least we did have eye contact for a while and a few smiles out of him, poor man what a mess
It is sad, Mandy, and what is happening to him was so predictable. But, he jumped in the mud, and ya can't do that with it sticking to ya. Thank goodness, you were able to get away with S and had some space before reconnecting.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
thanks for your replies, forward as for being interested, I still care about this man, silly as that is I know, but you cannot love someone 14 years and not still care, I dont think so not in the real world anyway, I talk to him and answer his calls so I would say I am being approachable, we mainly talk about son and that is fine by me, it is sons parents day at school next week, I texted ex and asked him if he would like to come along and so far no reply, we will see. Being me yes it was predictable and I also think the break up with her is so predictable as well, it isnt just me thinking it, it is her best friend and also other people including his old auntie that are now having doubts about whether or not they succeed in this marriage, the bungalow we lived in still isnt sold and apparently they are really low on money, so they are struggling lets see if she sticks it out with him now the money as gone, or if she does what she normally does and moves on to pastures new, we will see, all I can do is be a friend to ex and hope his relationship with son continues to go as it is going and that is quite well for now
