Welcome to the board. Have you read the DR book? That is a must in order to understand what this is all about.
You need to know what is the most important thing on earth is for you. Then ask yourself what you are able to do in order to obtain that most important thing on earth. You have to know what that is and what you are willing to do....or to endure.....and for how long.
Don't do anything that makes you feel "less" for doing it. Don't beg or plead with your H. Don't do any type of behavior that causes a woman to be unattractive. Acting b*tchy or pitiful is not attractive. Behaving like a police woman to your H is not attractive. Acting clingy or needy is not attractive. Always be a classy lady.
Set boundaries and expect them to be respected. Boundaries are not "demands" on the H, but rather what you can or can't handle.
You should be respected and never treated like a doormat. Behave with grace and dignity.
You can find great support and advice here on the board. You may want to read the threads on the infidelity forum. You need to to avoid talking to your H about your MR until you feel more certain about your descions.
I'll check back with you later. Take good care of yourself. The more you can tell us about the R, the better. Do you have children, what are the ages of you & H, etc.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
