Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

I know I've brought this up before, but I still think the best thing you could do is to "dump" her and act as if you are simply excited beyound belief at being single and able to date OW......and then proceed to do it. Now, that compromises what I feel as a Christian, but it would work. You think she doesn't want you? Test her and see.

Sandi,

You might have mentioned this before. Most recently RobX made the same suggestion to me.

I agree with your theory about dating OW and the jealously factor with my W. But that would compromise my own Christian beliefs and be lowering my standards. My kids need at least one responsible parent. And besides, dabbling in dating OW could easily make my sitch more complicated than it already is.

Right now I feel like I'm at the point emotionally where I have dropped the rope. After our last big R talk (after coming back from the out of state trip in August) I told my W in no uncertain terms that I was DONE with her behavior and disrespect towards me. I am polite and respectful but keep communication with my W to a bare minimum. I'm avoiding any talk about the MR or D- although she has attempted to bait/engage me a couple times about the D since I filed. I am pretty much keeping to myself and spending time with my kids. I guess I'm probably entering the "acceptance" phase of my sitch- accepting the fact that unless my W chooses otherwise, I'm going to be D'd and single again in the near future.

As much as accepting my possible fate as a casualty of D stinks, at least it frees up space in my mind to focus more on the person I want to be and think about the possibilities for the future.