WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Oh I know there's a storm brewing.

She sent me a whole bunch of kids pictures and factoids via email and text throughout the day. I just responded "politely" to the ones that had a specific question. She did it right before I called to say good nite to the boys.

I got really annoyed as she told me that she didn't take my 7 year old to soccer today because he was afraid he would get wet if it rained. Talk about more jedi mind tricks. It's not right. I just ignored it as I know there is absolutely nothing I can do about it. She then went into how our 7 year old got in trouble dealing with a bully a school - he and another boy got hit so he punched the bully back. He had to write I will not hit for the rest of recess. She told me what she said to him and how she handled it.

I just thanked her for letting me know and said goodbye.

Then she text me later how much she appreciated me discussing the stuff about our 7 year old tonite.

ARGH!!!!

Anyway, here is going to be my response to her (Thanks to Stronger's incredible help)

"Wife,

Yes, I'm going to be there with the boys. I've always liked these events with our friends and I do not plan to miss them. If you decide not to go, please extend our friends the courtesy of letting her know.

If you believe we need to speak, or there things that you want to do together, please let me know when and where and we'll do those things or have any conversation you would like. But please, do not tell me what I'm thinking and what it is I want. I don't think you have any idea about that either. The one thing that I do continue to ask is that we must be open, honest and respectful in our communications.

I am confused though. Why would either of us feel awkward at a party our children are attending? This is the path you've chosen by your actions, and we all have to deal with it. We are adults. If you are going to feel awkward, then please understand I will understand if you are not there. I will be there and in the future, I would like to know about all parties the boys are invited to. I would do the same for you if the roles were reversed and you were traveling back and forth for work."

I'm going sleep on it and then send it out in the morning

I will see my boys in less than 21 hours!!!!!