Yeah, John, that is a no-brainer for me. There is no point going to the thing if he is still communicating with and/or seeing her.
From the sounds of things, he hasn't spoken to her at least since Friday, if not before that (it was LAST Wed. that he wanted to talk to me and told me he wanted to try again and see if we can fix things, go to the retreat, etc etc). So I guess 5-6 days of no-contact was really getting to her.
I was surprised at how vehemently he said "No" when I asked if he still wanted her. I think he knows that in the light of day, in his real life, having her for a partner would just not make sense. All the logistics, she has shared custody of her son, I would have shared custody of my kids, things like that. He cannot even imagine having her son and our children hanging out together much less living together. So I do think that it is going to end, sooner than later. If he keeps up the non-communication then it basically has ended, except for making it 'official'.
And he met us to go to Nathan and Sydney's school open house tonight. He called me from his fixer upper to see what time I wanted to meet him, then he was headed back there to do some work on the place. So that is a good sign I think, b/c he had said that he would not make any improvements to it if we were getting a D because it would raise the value of the house. He was going to just go rent something to live in with the kids.
Who knows for sure? I just know he wanted to go to the retreat the first weekend in October, which is 3 weeks from tomorrow. If I waited the last 2 years, I can wait 3 more weeks to see what happens.
