Agree with your post....if she's serious she probably isn't going anywhere.
Part of my "reach out a tiny bit" type attitude is that the WAS often sh$ts on the LBS and doesn't seem to care how the struggling LBS feels. The WAS continues to push away the LBS and can turn pretty vicious. When the LBS is suddenly the one that controls whether there is a relationship, I'd like to think that we are above that. Maybe knowing the pain the LBS feels, I hate the thought of putting another person through it. I wasn't quite in AFWAWs shoes...I was already divorced and my wife wasn't habitually jumping back and forth, but when I felt she was sincere I gave her a chance. I'd suggest much less for AFWAW...but I don't know if it would hurt to throw her a crumb. Obviously, if AFWAW isn't interested (or doesn't know) whether he wants to even explore a relationship with his wife again, then as he said, it would just be leading her on to even bend a little. That's what I was trying to figure out.
AF, sorry to offend. Anyway, when I asked about how you'd feel in 3 months if she said she was going to move on, I didn't mean if you are together again. I was meaning, if you don't let her back in a bit, but instead keep telling her it's over, and she eventually moves on (as you have), will you feel you missed a chance?
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