This all makes perfect sense. Thanks for the clarification. Yes I fully agree that he can be the one to start the process, but in the meantime yes I am going to consult with a lawyer (before H takes action here) to protect myself. I have some references I will reach out to this weekend. I want to be prepared, and overall I feel like I am in a stronger place than I was a couple of months ago.
My H is a tad of a coward in certain respects and I think he is waiting for me to step up or something... he needs to get a taste of what this all will feel like I think as he goes about this process, even though I do think his mind is pretty made up.
I guess I am just trying to think ahead..so if I am served and/or we are reviewing papers together (or with lawyers or whatever), when/how do I feel like I sign? That's going to be hard I think...the finality of signing myself. Maybe it's a cowardly thing for me to do, but in some ways I'd almost rather just have it dissolve if he is really pressing hard than sign myself...b/c it's the stance that I felt I don't want this, and living true to that.
Nonetheless, I guess I shouldn't get ahead of myself too much without legal advice. The signing and finality of things do scare me a bit...but as I am now in CA with family and friends I feel more confident that if/when I do start a new life I will come back out here, where I have much more support.
