Then he said he knew he had to tell her and he was positive that it was over and he didn't want to be with her anymore. But that there was never going to be a good time to actually tell her and he was not sure when he was going to do it.
Pardon me while I go put on my hip waders.
He is treating her and you like an inconvenience in his otherwise miserable life.
I am guessing that he never talked to the pastor.
It is a mystery why OW is attracted to him now. Maybe she has not experienced frustrated and unhappy Dan.