I just wanted to give you an update… The girls are doing well. Went to Target and got some groceries and a new toy for each girl. It was kind of hard to put them to bed since I don’t have a radio for D5 and it was warm. They liked their room but I could see that D5 was a little different. Tried talking to her but she was playing with her new doll and stated that she just wanted to try her new bed. D3 had an episode last night, was crying and finished her night with me. This morning was calling for you… didn’t want to go to school and stayed with my Mom. Took D5 to school and she was happy like nothing had changed. I am still in shock about how she is taking this…
I hope you are ok.
I hope it is ok for me to give you updates once in a while. I want you to know how the girls are doing. I hope you could do the same when they are with you.
My reply: (includes 2 pictures of girls) ------------------------------------------------------ Hola,
I just wanted to give you an update… The girls are doing well. Thank you. I did miss them last night. I am sure they loved their rooms, you have a knack for decorating.
Tried talking to her but she was playing with her new doll and stated that she just wanted to try her new bed. You thought you could compete for D5’s attention with a new doll, new room, new bed? I know you know better ;-)
D3 had an episode last night, was crying and finished her night with me. … didn’t want to go to school and stayed with my Mom. Good to hear that she hasn’t changed ;-)
This morning was calling for you Touches my heart. Daddy’s little girl.
I hope it is ok for me to give you updates once in a while. I want you to know how the girls are doing. I hope you could do the same when they are with you. Please do send updates. I enjoy them very much. I will send them as well. But please just ask when you want to know and be assertive about it. I can’t read your mind on when you want things. I am learning that part of what got us here is that neither of us was assertive enough in explaining what we wanted when we wanted it.
I hope you are ok. I am fine. Thank you. Finding ways to keep myself busy. I would like to take D5 to soccer on Saturday Morning if possible. I would need to pick her up around 8:30. I can take D3 too, she has as much fun as D5 (probably more). I will have them back before 11:00. Hope all is well for you as well.
Reply from W: -------------------------------------------------------- Thanks for the pictures… we have two beautiful pumpkins…
Ok, “be assertive”??? What does that really mean? I am just asking for you to tell me how they are doing. Do you mean that I should call you or e-mail if I want to know how they are doing??? You will not do it unless I asked? In addition, “reading my mind”???? You don’t need to “read my mind”…we just needed to be connected to each other to know what we were feeling, that brings honesty and open communication, something that we were having problems doing …. I know I was not “assertive” ( hate the word and prefer to use open or clear) with you before because I was holding my feelings with the hope that things get better… and you were just not getting it. You were too focus on yourself….I don’t know what you are reading or who you are talking to but this message does not sound like you.
Please be you. Don’t try to change that much.
Regarding Saturday, it is ok. I know they will have fun. You are a great Dad!
