Fallgirl`s Second Thread

[cat04]

That is a major difference. My H has thought I was happy, or at least he says that, all along. I remember a time, early in 07 when I said something to S about being stressed. H angrily asked me what I had to be stressed about. UMMMM...lets see, we seem to be fighting a ton lately (which we hadn't done in years), your crazy mother is living here, you work so much I have to just deal with everything.........................

I don't really know when he might have figured out how unhappy I was. Or if he has. Or how he thought I was happy to begin with considering I didn't laugh, smile, listen to music, nothing fun. I was not fun at all. All business. I guess when I look back, when I started to find me he didn't like it much. But he was so super angry at that point, it could have been that or something else. Or nothing at all. Who knows.

I have to say that my H was all about words, except for his snooping, when he was angry. There were not the little games your H seems to be playing (although I have heard stories from others). You handle them very well.

FG-this may just be what he really needs right now. The separation, the power. Although that is really the answer to it I think. He wanted to be the one to do this, probably in part expecting you to fall apart or fight back. He is getting what he wants and you are doing well. Not arguing, not begging or pleading. Now he has to wonder if it is right.

Listen, you mentioned only having one thing in common? What is it. Are you sure that is the only thing? My H, like most, said that crap. Well we have more in common than twins. And he knows it. There are differences too but..