Interesting advice...I hear what you are saying, yes, but it does is some ways seem not-DB'ish, if you will. I get that there is emotional and legal D...and I don't want this to become nasty. At the same time if he's going to push this I feel like he should step up to the plate, I don't want to necessarily help him here. Stronger's post the other day seemed quite different...thinking that no, I can't stop him, but why help him in this process...let him do all of the work and maybe he'll think twice about things. I've read other posts and a lot of them do say, yes, achknowledge where they are and that you can't stop them from doing what they need to do, even if you don't agree with it.
In terms of going out and having fun, I have been doing that quite a bit lately and it has helped. I went on a date over the weekend and have been getting attention when I go out w girlfriends...this all helps. I am not going to sit home and mope, I am going to put myself out there and maybe someone great will come along that will really appreciate me and I'll click with...who knows, i am trying to be open.
