H hasn't said anything about what he did to our couple's profiles. I don't know if he simply changed the passwords or actually deleted them. I didn't ask, I will tonight at the MC.
A big fear I have is that if he does agree to give up the swinging, it will weigh heavily on his mind and the resentment will build up over time. I know him- he doesn't let go of grudges and resentments. They erupt out of him like a volcano after a long time of sitting dormant. I've had first hand experience with that, I'm very concerned that it will happen again. I mentioned this fear to him previously, and he responded that I was asking him to give up something he really enjoyed, and be happy about it. Well, I guess I am. I want him to give it up because he doesn't want to hurt me anymore, not to merely pacify me. He threatened earlier this summer that if he gave up swinging, he "would reach a point where he couldn't take it anymore and would have to do something about it." He wasn't joking. Later he said that I was making too much out of that statement, that cheating was just a possibility, not a definite. That really doesn't make me feel any better...
