In Limbo

[ginab1966]

hey you...i was checking in on your thread to see how things have been going for you and found this waiting here for me. Thanks so much for asking.

Well, we are still on track for Retrouvaille on the 18th and I'm really holding out a lot of hope for that to give me/us some tools. We have had some fun family times. We are back in the same bed with a bit of intimacy here and there. I would like to say that I'm encouraged and have a bit more hope than I had. He will not agree to get the retainer of $1,500 from the mediator as he said that is his security blanket and it's easier for him to try and work on the marriage when he's got a way out. We are so strapped for cash that I am really stuggeling to undersand the logic..but...I'm doing the best I can.

Righ now, we're having an issue with his computer addiction rearing it's ugly head. I'm struggleing with that too. I love this man but his computer/gaming addiction is one of the big issues we've had in our relationship. I want to address the issue but I'm also having a really hard time with the idea of getting into something so "red button" as this so early in our re-connection. It's hard.

Have you signed up for Retrou yet? You are doing the right things. Stay as happy as you can, focus on you and the kids, don't be a doormat, be patient, try to control the one thing that you can...YOU.

We can do this!!!! I think it's important for us to know that we really are in control of this situation...we always were. It just looks like they are and feels like they are but THEY are the ones in Limbo. We ahve a very clear objective...to save our family. They are on the edge swaying back and forth. We just have to stay on our path.

Take good care....I'll keep you updated and you do the same, ok? My thoughts are with you..

Gina B