Gucci, I am SO sorry to hijack but I could really use your advice. H said wants D on no uncertain terms...he's talking about and pushing paperwork...waiting for me to get back east to file...asking when I'm going to move, etc. He is wanting to make this happen sooner rather than later, clearly. I am coming to terms w it more and more, and trying to move on. Any pears of wisdom welcome! -hhh