I think you're getting some bad advice. Gucci, if I have mischaracterized your advice, please clarify.
Trust me Thinker.. It IS the RIGHT advice. Follow it and you will know.
You found out where it got you with disagreeing with her about your parents. It got you more arguments and walls up.
I told you.. LEARN to agree.. be sincere (I think kettricken missed that part) apologize and move on....
It works. It stops fights. She feels heard. She loosens up BECAUSE you are on her side... Find one little thing in what she is venting or arguing about and use it to agree,pick it out to tell her you agree and move on...
Anybody can find something to disagree about in a talk. A wise man finds something to agree with when she is venting in the way your wife is. I would take my chance on being the wise man...
So Kett.. If you thought your husband was verbally abusing you. You would rather he say he wasn't and respect him more for telling you he disagreed with you than if he told you that you were right, he had been verbally abusing you and was sorry? You would respect him less and question whether he meant it?????
Interesting.. Maybe you have never had a man agree with you huh?
