Thank you GB! This is really helpful. Similar situations and time together that we are both in too. I don't think there is any way to get him back at this point. I just don't want it to turn nasty - I won't feel good about myself either if it does, but also don't want to have him walk all over me. All of our expenses have always been separate and we don't currently own property, just rent, so it would be relatively simple in the scheme of things, no kids, etc. But he's done things I didn't think he would do past few months so you never know what he'll pull this time. I am going to talk to a lawyer in a few weeks, just to educate myself about MA laws (no fault state)... when I spoke to retrouvaille folks awhile ago they said some judges will even mandate counseling if one insits before things become final. But it seems like that would just make him more bitter.
Either way, I'm going to look out for myself. It would be weird if he just now wanted half our furniture or claim to things that were mine before we married (when he left and I've helped fund his tuition and our rent past couple years).
Good luck to you too...I'll check out your thread shortly. Thanks for posting to mine. Kindly, hhh
