I like this thread and ideas here. While I totally get qualities that attract a man to a woman, what about re-attracting same man to same woman when there is SO much water under the bridge...ie, given all of our situations, and why we are here in first place. When there are hurtful things said and done over the years, it seems like looking good, sexiness, confidence, etc just don't seem to matter as much (but of course they are important for our own's sakes!)