Might I suggest perahps meeting in a neutral place (resteraunt or something) so that both parties would be less inclined to let their emotions get the better of them?

Your X has apparantly come to terms with her actions, I know I did wonders for my anger and frustration when my XW aired her regrets.

just my $.02

Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11