Get tough and get a good lawyer and take charge. Negotiate YOUR best deal now while she is acting flexible. The best time to get your best deal is when they want out and have their mind on someone else. They will give you much more because they feel like they just want it over with... GET YOUR BEST DEAL NOW...
It will actually be an advantage for you in the long run. IF she comes back, part of the reason is that reality hit that she left with nothing. It won't effect whether she comes back or not if you get tough with the negotiations. Not a bit. It will actually get you some respect.
If she starts trying to talk to you about the divorce, tell her it is in your lawyer's hands and out of yours. Let the lawyer get you the best deal possible. Think of YOU.
It is up to you how you want to handle it. Can you be friends when or if the D goes through? Look out for yourself and do what you want to do in this. Be fair to yourself. If you go through this with him on his terms are you going to give into what he wants as a way to get him back or will you be able to stand up for what is rightfully yours.
"Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" Matthew 6:33
