A part of me wonders if AF has finally arrived at that strong point beyond the pain and just doesn't want to go back there. Again, it is his choice, but I don't think it should be made right now.

He does know how it is to have the shoe on the other foot. It is extremely hurtful for a spouse to go outside of a marriage and have a PA. Nearly unforgivable, yet........ there have been marriages that have survived and thrived beyond the A.

I think AF needs to give this some more time, more thought, and more time away from this board to think on his own without our opinions.


Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08,
S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012!
Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.