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Sounds like you are finding a new equilibrium. That is excellent. I hope you can relax while he is away.

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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
I interpret his comment about appreciating me to be his way of saying it but clarifying that it isn't that other romantic kind of appreciating. Doesn't matter...I know I'm mind reading but I know him pretty well. It scares him how cool I've been and how different the dynamic is. Even that we had that weird experience earlier and that I have moved on...it used to be a frickin 5 hour conversation when my feelings were hurt. I like myself like this much more. Him, he is confused and about to go into fantasy land...so, I bank on nothing.

I like the appreciation comment. That feels very real and meaningful. It's awesome to see you relaxed and in control in your own way. In the recent past I have thought about send W flowers and the most meaningful thing I could think of for the card was: "you are loved and appreciated". I didn't of course and not sending the was the right thing to do.

How will you spend the next two weeks?

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Going away for a week with the kids. Then they go back to school and I'll have some me time.

I did something today that was totally inspiring (don't want to extrapolate) but, feeling good.

Got a lot on my mind but have to run and will write more later.



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I just checked it out. I will be on the road but checking in...

This is a process...don't forget it. Whatever your spiritual practice is go heavy on it.

When you feel aligned and good about yourself, the individual decisions and challenges are much more manageable and you can act more intuitively and without so much second guessing. When you are off (and you know when you are), you are bound to screw up or think you did. Make sense?

Talking to myself too. We can only get in the best mental and spiritual space possible and act from there. Wont always be perfect but it is better.



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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
I just checked it out. I will be on the road but checking in...

This is a process...don't forget it. Whatever your spiritual practice is go heavy on it.

When you feel aligned and good about yourself, the individual decisions and challenges are much more manageable and you can act more intuitively and without so much second guessing. When you are off (and you know when you are), you are bound to screw up or think you did. Make sense?

Talking to myself too. We can only get in the best mental and spiritual space possible and act from there. Wont always be perfect but it is better.

Thanks smile


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Wow. Away with the kids having a really nice time. Today's my bday and I woke up kind of down...I guess it makes sense but I like to think I'm over it.

H called to say happy birthday, and texted and emailed and posted on my fb page.

Anyway, gonna go exploring with the kids and enjoy my day!



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Happy Birthday, AAK!


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Happy, happy birthday!


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S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012!
Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.

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Happy birthday! Funny, today's my H's birthday -

Go out have fun. Celebrate yourself!!!!


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