I maintain my opinion that if she has changed and grown, she would be showing John some respect by giving him what he needs and has clearly articulated -- space and time.

Talk is cheap, and I can't imagine why he should believe her, *absent any concrete demonstration of remorse*. This latest contact -- although I certainly don't doubt her distress -- still reeks of attempted manipulation to get what *she* wants. IMHO.

I would never say, "Slam the door and lock it," although I would certainly understand that choice. However, I sure don't think this is a time for "all is forgiven, open arms," either. What she needs to fix, she needs to fix it on her own two feet, by herself, on her own. Again, IMHO.


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