We dont have a lawyer...but a dissoultion is when both parties agree to all terms..I do not want a D nor do I agree with it. I have been to therapy and it does not help..I dont know if it is because I am one of those people that have to get it on my own for it to click..he talked to my mom and she said this is all coming from his sister..and I know it is..he said he has not been happy in 10 years and my mom called him out..she said I know you pretty well and you lived w us for 2 years..she thinks he is running. she said he blames me for everything. he said when two people are not happy they should leave each other..she called him out again and said there have been many unhappy times in my 40 years of marriage but you have to work through them or you will deal with the same issues in your next relationship or in your life..I have decided to keep posting here for support..not worry about him and anytime he brings up his unhappiness I will leave the house or room...I wont let it get that far anymore. I am going to show him he can have a happy life with me my mom said she thinks he thinks he will have this happy life without me..she said he is in for a rude awakening..and no I have no backbone..i usually do not stand up for myself because he will argue any point I have and partly bc I am afraid of him leaving..for now..I will focus on myself and my children...I have given up enough of my time for him. Stronger..I admire you and I am so glad you give me such awesome support! thank you! So..could you help me make a plan?? do you think this marriage is salvagable?

Last edited by swimmingupstream; 09/10/09 03:38 PM.