Umm...If you are capable of detaching, then DO IT NOW. Remember, detaching doesn't mean you put up the iron curtin. It means you treat him like a good friend.
For example, you text your good friend, "Hey what's up? Haven't heard from you in a couple of days...?" Let's say your good friend didn't respond until the next day and then just said "super super busy, call you later, take care." How would you handle that? For me, I do that all the time with all of my good friends because most of us are professional working moms and very busy, so I take no offense but want them to know I'm thinking of them. And I do the same to them, get the same "What's up?" text and don't answer it right away, because I'm in a meeting, I'm driving, I'm playing with S or tennis, etc. They too still care about me and don't stress.
Make sense?
Right now I bet if you did that with your H and he didn't respond until the next day you would grip about it the whole time....read into it, etc. Detaching would allow you to treat it as the same thing as a good friend not responding.
