Advice on DB-ing when sep spouse lives at home

[Ms Jen]

...I assumed he would be back for dinner and he wasn't and of course I am upset...
When he does act more normal it is harder for me to remain detach and to not start acting a bit wifey..

Oh I can relate. There are many days that I think about how much easier this would be with H not living at home. I have problems when my adult H emerges because it is so sad when he retreats once again.