I think the attractiveness thing (at least for me) is the initial "eye catcher," that feeling that made me want to know more about her. But that doesn't last. It has to develop further from there.
Looks wear off, we all grow older. And that isn't what keeps either person interested in the M, or, if that is the base of the M, it WON'T last.
On the weight issue, I think that is relative. I haven't had to deal with this with my W, but I would think that if the weight got out of hand, the physical appearance would matter some, but what I think would be most important would be losing respect for her - if she doesn't respect herself enough to take care of herself, then how can I respect her.
I don't expect my W to be a runway model, but I do expect she will take care of herself within reason. I think she should expect the same from me.
