It does make sense. I thought it was geared more toward relationship stuff, that's why it seemed like such a hard thing to do, and not necessarily goals that could be accomplished in a short period of time with these guys.
I have gotten the same type of thing from my H -that attitude about not having a choice but "has" to do it. Over the summer I started extending invitations to H when the kids and I were going to do something special or new (it took me awhile to get to the point where I could do this and not be bothered if he said no). It is always stated "you are welcome to join us . . ." And he has come pretty much every time. He tries to feel in "control" I think by not letting me know ahead of time, joining us there etc., but he has come. And at first I got the attitude from him like a sulking teenager, that I will be here but I won't like it attitude which was so irritating because NO ONE said he had to be there (but yes I ignored it and enjoyed myself anyway). The last time he joined us a couple of weeks ago, though, that didn't seem to be there, at least not so noticeably and he seemed to be enjoying himself. Progress maybe?
I guess I need to re-read that section of the book and come up with some goals. Maybe a year from now a good night kiss? :)Or two years? Ha!
