H with 1foot out the door...LONG

[ginab1966]

I would love to hear from anyone that has had to deal with a spouse with an Internet/Gaming addiction. What have you done/said? How do you handle the endless hours of them stareing at a computer screen. He was on from 5-10pm last night..AGAIN. 4th night in a row. He did come to bed with me and cuddled and I was down in the computer room with him and we did chat from time to time but he was pretty locked into that game. I had a girls night out and he said he was going to work on the car so my mom picked DD up from daycare and keep her until he picked her up. I don't think he worked on the car at all (told me he did though) and it's my gut instinct (based on years of past behavior) that he kept DD at Mom's and played this game until he picked her up at 7pm, put her to bed and went right back down on the computer game.

I'm just really confused and torn. I am torn because I need him to understand that I am not ok with the amount of time he's been spending on the computer but I need to say it in a way that's not going to blow things out of the water either. Everyone is telling me to take care of myself and my needs and my issues and one of my issues is that I don't voice my needss or wants. However, I've just gotten him to re-engage a tiny bit and I don't want to take 15 steps back by bringing up one of our hot button topics like the computer use. This is probably our biggest issue in our relationship. It's VERY deep-seeded. Any advice would be great.

Gina B