I know what you mean about the 'slipping away.' My XW moved out, bought new furniture, etc. I know it's hard but you must stay the course with all your approvements and let things roll off. I have to say that even though my sitch didn't work out, DB'ing really got me prepared for the divorce and life after. So really, it's a win-win situation because either the changes you've made either work at bringing your spouse back into the realtionship or help you to be in a healthy frame of mind after the divorce. So either way, you are a better person.
Well, I'm not sure what else I could of done to salvage my marriage. I made alot of changes and addressed the issues my XW had with me. Really, I think that if I had more time, eventually we would have gotten back together. I guess my biggest mistake was to tell my XW I didn't want to be in limbo anymore. In my state a divorce can take as little as two months and is way too easy to obtain. So it seems like an easy way out, but it's really not. Now's she's really struggling and I've moved on. Although now she says she wants to leave the door open, but I just can't stick around anymore.
In fact, now I consider myself the WAS.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
