Unfortunately, she sounds like MLC to me. If you read a bit of the MLC board, you will find a lot of similarities.
I have done extensive research on MLC, not only personally but for school. Your W does sound like she is in the midst of one...the change in clothing, physically, hairstyle. The fact that she is self consumed is very telling. Individuals in the midst of this ONLY think of themselves, convinced that if they are happy, everyone else around them will also be happy. What they don't realize is that they are destroying their family.
Unfortunately, and I hate to tell you this, but also with these changes comes the strong possiblity that your W is having an affair. If not a PA, than an EA. Either that, or she is in the midst of some heavy duty flirting.
The first thing you will need to decide is whether or not you want to take a ride on the MLC roller coaster. It is long, winding, and there are no guarantees. It is one of the ugliest rides you will ever take, but in the end, you can come out of it stronger.
With MLC'ers, believe nothing they tell you. They will blame you constantly, and make it sound like everything is your fault. Now, some of it may be. Let's face it, we are all human and none of us are perfect. So work on the areas that she has complained of.
But first, think about how you want to proceed. I can give you a ton of information. Just let me know.
Lola
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
