Newbie (again)

[dday101798]

Heh, really don't know where to start this, seems just like last week where everybody here was having issues of ludicris jealousy from their X's, this week it's issues with the kids and I got mine.

So, after dinner last night and getting laundry started for the first time in weeks (I've been slacking a bit while keeping my PMA going), I sit down outside for a bit and get a phone call from a friend, but really didn't feel like talking at the moment. Let it go to voice mail and as I'm checking the message, I get a call from XW's number. Me being technically challanged in this area kept hitting 'accept' but it didn't work.

So, I get a voice mail from S11 begging me to please call him back. I do immediately as he rarely ever calls me. No answer, leave a message returning his call, then he calls back. Long story short, of the 45 minute conversation we had the bulk was regarding how unhappy he says he is living with XW, is treated unfairly, blamed for everything S12 does, never gets a say-so in activities they do, hates being there and especially at the 'new house' downstate, and the list could go on.

The things that really got me going:

He's already doing poorly in school and is getting in trouble for not keeping up with assignments, bringing things home for signatures and the like. Then, he begs me to please come get him and let him stay with me for 2 - 3 weeks so he can get into the managed routine I always kept him up on. That shocked the sh!t out of me as everyone used to say that I was 'overly hard' on him to keep his schooling in check. Even I admit, at times it was grooling, but he needed it, otherwise he'd be a D student at best.

Then, as we talked a bit about his gripes of living with XW, the bomb, XW is renigging on our previous agreement that since I couldn't establish a arrangement for them for our summer visitation I could use a week in the fall and/or spring to actually go somewhere for once. And that XW doesn't believe I'll take her back to court for 'whatever reason', and that he wishes we would go back to court to get him out of there.

I honestly don't know what to do. Then, XW in the background barks at him to "get his a-- in the shower", he angerly growled at her "I'm talking to my dad", then she did the same to S12, and he said "no, you get your a-- in the shower"

She has clearly lost all control of them. I had to coax S11 to do as his mother "asked" as it was getting kind of late, then he tells me that S12 was trying to yank the phone away from him and I hear S12 called him a f'n f@G-ot. Oh hell no, I got on with S12 and set him straight, I shouldn't have as it's XW's house and XW needs to regain control, but that is just unacceptable.

After Xw's phone cut out, I am very proud of the job I did to not text her of my displeasure, supposidly she wanted to speak about some of S11's comments, but I told both boys each time that I had nothing to say to her at this point in time as I knew it would not have gone well.

For some odd reason I woke up in a great mood today, hell even hand jive'n to the Bee-Gee's on the way in to work. I do have a feeling something very good is going to happen today, not sure what. Heck, opened my e-mail to yet another "sorry we don't have a position that matches your qualifications". But I feel great Maybe because it's becoming apparent now more than ever that soon, rather than later, the boys are finally going to work together and revoult against XW and the custody will be reversed I don't see how she's keeping together after seeing and hearing the things to date.