You know, a lot of the guys here give great advice, but each sitch is unique. I've felt that the DB approach is such a tenuous and difficult line to walk.
For myself, although I did not know of the books or the techniques back then, I realised that I did use some of the techniques. A lot of the GAL, and 180-ing did induce changes in my W, good changes. But I also broke a lot of the rules, and sometimes I think if I didn't or strictly went by the book, we might not have progressed in the same way.
As my W told me later, if she had felt I had completely cut her off, cut off support for her, and not loved her, she would have walked, with or without OM. Of course, one has to take these things with a pinch of salt, the swings in WAW to undecided WAW, to W again involves wield swings in logic, thinking, emotions, perspectives etc.
Hope you go on feeling good.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
