wife left, wants divorce, possibly bipolar

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serenity,

thanks for your support. i just started reading your thread, when i'm done i'll get back to you with questions. . .

Karen,

thanks. i'm worried if i file for spousal support, it'll just anger her further, and make me look pathetic--i'd have to go to court with her and get my doctor to say i have anxiety and depression, and a back problem that prevents me doing manual labour-type jobs. . . and also talk about how i can't find a job, since i haven't been working for awhile, i'm worried it'll convince her i'm no good, and i'm not making it on my own. . .

at the same time, i might have no choice soon, and if she goes ahead with the divorce without talking to me about it, i'll have to fight back. it would feel like fighting a part of myself.

normally, she's a caring person as well as a guilty person, but she's not showing any signs of responsibility for my situation. she did pay a couple of bills for awhile, but i think just so she could say that she didn't abandon me 100% financially (only about 98%!).

when your family member with BP went back to his wife, how did it happen? were they in contact? was he manic, was he demonizing her, was it just indecision? my wife has had a lot of trouble making decisions and sticking to them, especially in the last couple years. how did bipolar disorder affect their situation?

thanks again.